Ruth Tarrant
~ Providing Mental Health
& Trauma Care Since 1994
Ruth Tarrant
~ Providing Mental Health
& Trauma Care Since 1994
Mental Fitness
For Tough Times
For Good Times
Heal the Pain; Live Forwards
A Caring Nod to the Past and Eyes Firmly on the Future
"The laws of karma are actually very empowering. We may always be aware of strong emotional & psychological winds blowing from past events & experiences, but even so, how we sail through these winds can make all the difference. No matter how strongly we have been conditioned, we don't have to go through life perpetuating old patterns ... new karma is being created all the time."
~ Lama Surya Das
Temperance
Patience; Kindness; Allowing; Astute
Be gentle but firm with yourself; choose your thoughts care fully
Your thougths are yours and yours alone to create and re-create; your thoughts are your own to destroy as well. If you don't like this thought, create a new one. It takes practice, daily practice - it's a simple practice, it's not an easy practice. Practice every day - make helpful thoughts, useful thoughts, thoughts you can live by.
Self Determination - What are your thoughts and their reactions determining in your life?
To Promote Self Determination:
1/ Get to know yourself - who you truly are, and what you want out of life; keep your personal goals dynamic, fluid and flexible;
2/ Solve problems that act as barriers to achieving those goals; or prevent you being who you know you truly are; seek assistance whenever you need to; where problems cannot be solved seek to live alongside them until a solution becomes possible; lean into 'possibility thinking' to achieve this - different from positive thinking which may, or may not, help;
3/ Make choices that reflect your preferences whenever possible; including choices about how you present your own self to the world around you;
4/ Participate actively in decisions that impact the quality of your life - what are others deciding for you or about you, without you?
5/ Advocate for yourself; don't hide; don't allow them to silence you except for thjose occassions when that fits for you;
6/ Take charge of your life - it's yours, not theirs, allow them to take charge of their lives too.
Accept who
you are now
Aspiring to be the best version of yourself is great unless it includes some form of self rejection.
By accepting who we are through any stage of our lives we also enable what's already working for us, enable our current strengths. That means we don't have to keep telling ourselves I'm not my best version yet but I will be one day. Which is vague and can lead to self rejection. Don't self reject. Ever.
Self Trust
- by being yourself you enable others to be themselves too;
- self trust is an important step towards self reliance, resilience;
- self trust helps us to gracefully live beyond our ego.
Self Determinaiton
Self determination is about the personal decision to do or think a certain way then live by that.
Do you like the way you do things? Do you like the way you think?
Self determination is about being able to say yes to both those questions most of the time.
~ Providing MH Trauma Care Since 1994 ~
Building Mental Fitness One Day At A Time
~ A Nod To The Past; Firmly Focused On The Future ~
Over 45,000 hrs clinical experience in mental health + 8,500 hrs tertiary level education, mostly in mental healthcare
Masters Degree focused on PTSD & Secondary Trauma Responses